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At Home in the City

by Erik Momsen

The most important aspect of human life is under severe threat.  The foundation and sanctuary of our lives is being mismanaged and attacked from every corner.  I am referring to marriage and family.  Some are even asking if these institutions are still valid.  This might be a valid question taken the levels of breakup and violence in the home.

We have to ask in reply what the alternative is?  Do we father children and then leave the mothers or other female relatives to raise the offspring or perhaps hand them to institutions?  One can see in this question that we have touched the very core of our being.  Who will raise and nurture us?  The overwhelming majority of humanity know they want to be raise by loving, caring male and female adults who gave them biological life.

The question now remains to be answered why these people who give us birth find it so hard to live in an environment of peace, understanding and love.


If you have been married you are, or were, married to a sinner.  It is a sad day when she realizes that the knight in shining armor she married is just a slug who likes shiny things and the princess he married is so full of it.  Most of us will immediately respond by thinking, "I always knew there was something wrong with him/her."

The response of looking for the fault in the other goes to confirm the basic story of the origin of sin.  The bible tells us "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." (Romans 3:23)

While you look for the speck in your spouse's eye you will be blinded to the trouble in your life.  Change ALWAYS starts with me.  Even if my only fault is faithlessness in a mighty God who can change any situation.

God’s design and the origin of SIN in marriage is well detailed in Genesis 3:

Genesis 3:20-24 - "But for Adam no suitable helper was found. ... Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.  The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."

 - The Holy Spirit is described as our "helper".
 - Some other versions translate "rib" = "side" - Eve was taken from his side "to be at his side".
 - "Flesh of my flesh" speaks of their oneness.
 - "Leaving father & mother" speaks of starting a new unity/family.

After the SIN

Genesis 3:7-13 - "Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; .... Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the LORD God among the trees of the garden.  But the LORD God called to the man, "Where are you?"  He answered, "I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid."  And he said, "Who told you that you were naked?  Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?"  The man said, "The woman you put here with me--she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it." ... The woman said, "The serpent deceived me, and I ate."

Genesis 3:14-16 - "So the LORD God said to the serpent, "Because you have done this, "Cursed are you ... To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children.  Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."

Genesis 3:17-19 - "To Adam he said, "Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, 'You must not eat of it,' "Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life.  It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field.  By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return."

 - Sin resulted in a realization of nakedness / guilt, and we have been covering up since then.
   Hiding our fear - inadequacies - angers ....
 - They hear God coming and hid from Him - the relationship with each other and God had been seriously damaged.
 - Adam blames Eve, and Eve the snake - Even though they were together in it (v3:6).
 - The Lord pronounces a curse on the serpent and continues to tell Eve of the curse her and her husband have unleashed.
 - Birth that was supposed to be a blessing is now part blessing, part curse - women know this.
 - Eve’s desire will be to control her husband - "Your desire will be for your husband,"
  "desire" = tesh oo kaw = longing stretching desire - speaks of an insatiable need for his presence, but also to control.

"If you do what is right, will you not be accepted?  But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it." Genesis 4:7
 - This is God’s warning to Cain and describes sin’s controlling power.
 - The other part of the curse is man's domination over woman - he will rule over you.
 - Men are also cursed in their vital role of work and provision.

In Christ is the breaking of the curse of sin

Ephesians 5:21 - "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."

Galatians 3:27,28 - "For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ.  There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus."

Date Added: 2012-11-06

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